A long time ago I realized that my tolerance for crazy is steadily becoming more and more limited. I can put up with a lot – I’m a very patient person – but even patient people have a breaking point. When I am pushed to my breaking point I have learned how to say “enough is enough” and sever all ties.
When I say “crazy” I am not referring to that one friend who happens to get drunk and act crazy every once in awhile, or even that friend who always seems to have drama swirling around them. No, I am referring to a person who enters your life who at first seems pretty normal. Sure they are a little quirky, but you think it’s part of their charm. Then slowly they start saying things that make you scratch your head and think “that sounds a little crazy to me”. Next they start telling lies, seeing things that are not there, fabricating stories or coming up with reasoning that only make sense to them. Soon they start freaking out over nothing, starting fights, acting irrational and basically confirming your theory that they are, in fact, certifiably CRAZY. Depending on the severity of crazy, this may or may not come along with war texting, jealousy, dependency, manipulation, name calling followed by profuse apologies, unexpected visits, and overall fear for your safety.
I don’t know how or why crazy people enter my life. Perhaps they are drawn to me because I tend to see the best in everyone and trust people entirely too easily. Over the years I’ve had to distanced myself from a lot of great friends with tremendous hearts who happen to have a huge screw loose in their head. It can be difficult, but I have a “no crazy people allowed” rule that I live by for the sake of my own sanity.
I’ve only come across the above mentioned level of certifiably CRAZY twice, which is exactly two times too many. In fact, it was after I finally rid myself of the first certifiably CRAZY person that I came up with my “no crazy people allowed” rule.
The problem with certifiably CRAZY people is they keep their craziness hidden at first. They seem normal. Then out of the blue, BAM! Crazy sneaks out and you are left wondering if it is a one time occurrence, which they will surely try to convince you it is. I am here to tell you that it is not a one time occurrence. It is just the beginning.
I’m talking to both guys and girls here because crazy comes in all shapes, sizes and genders. They can start out as friends, lovers, training partners, co-workers, etc. You may even think you love them. You may think that they need you. You may think you can fix them.
Stop thinking that right now! Cut crazy out while you can still escape sans emotional or physical wounds because that is exactly where it will be headed. Recognize crazy signs early on and don’t ignore them.
Take it from me, I know.
You might be wondering if I’m so smart, how in the world did a second certifiably CRAZY person weasel their way into my life? Don’t I follow my own advice?
Yes. Yes I do.
It took me about a month to realize my new Coach was crazy. It took me another six weeks to realize he qualified as certifiably CRAZY. Now he is cut from my life. It wasn’t easy. It never is! I was called all sorts of names, told that I needed him and would be nothing without him. I was accused of unforgivable crimes. But, I was smart enough to recognize that crazy is crazy and nothing he could call me was actually a reflection of me. His attempts to hurt me emotionally could only go as deep as I would let them. He may have made me strong in the gym, but I am mentally strong enough to realize that I do not need him.
I will never need crazy in my life, and neither do you.
I realize it is not always easy to cut crazy from your life – especially if it’s been there for a long time. Know this: There is no shame in asking for help. Find a way to distance yourself and don’t go back.
Follow my “no crazy people allowed” rule and I guarantee you will have fewer gray hairs, less wrinkles, no stress induced heartburn and be more successful in your career and in bed.*
*No real guarantee guaranteed. But I do believe in my heart of hearts positive energy breeds more positive energy. Crazy people will drain you. They will take all of your energy – both positive and negative. Don’t allow it to happen. Use your positive energy to improve your life and the lives of your family and friends. Your true friends, not the crazy ones.