Comments on: The time I made an ass out of myself in front of Twenty-six http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/ Wed, 18 Jan 2012 04:47:19 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: The Story of 2009 | http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-2180 The Story of 2009 | Thu, 07 Jan 2010 01:34:37 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-2180 [...] with TMI Friday, writing about oversharing and the most personal of all, my secret pain. I met Dooce! Threw an Ugly Christmas Sweater Party and spent half of Christmas with my family and the other [...] [...] with TMI Friday, writing about oversharing and the most personal of all, my secret pain. I met Dooce! Threw an Ugly Christmas Sweater Party and spent half of Christmas with my family and the other [...]

]]> By: Blanche http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1794 Blanche Tue, 15 Dec 2009 10:35:46 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1794 Thanks for considering your words Summer. New reader, who is not close-minded, nor fitted with delicate sensibilities, nor flying off any handles- Blanche Thanks for considering your words Summer.

New reader, who is not close-minded, nor fitted with delicate sensibilities, nor flying off any handles-
Blanche

]]> By: Amy --- Just A Titch http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1785 Amy --- Just A Titch Mon, 14 Dec 2009 17:12:31 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1785 As Kelli said, I come in peace. I also come as someone who gets it---I've used the word retarded as an insult before. Still, I'm a teacher, and a former teacher of developmentally disabled adults. I've seen how hurtful it is to those who are mentally retarded when the word is used negatively. And sure, you can say it's your blog, and you can say what you'd like, but isn't there a more repsectful way to do so? We are all blessed with the freedom to say, write, think what we wish but that doesn't mean we should. I doubt that you meant for this post to ignite a discussion, but I really do hope you'll take the feedback and choose words wisely. As Kelli said, I come in peace. I also come as someone who gets it—I’ve used the word retarded as an insult before. Still, I’m a teacher, and a former teacher of developmentally disabled adults. I’ve seen how hurtful it is to those who are mentally retarded when the word is used negatively.

And sure, you can say it’s your blog, and you can say what you’d like, but isn’t there a more repsectful way to do so? We are all blessed with the freedom to say, write, think what we wish but that doesn’t mean we should.

I doubt that you meant for this post to ignite a discussion, but I really do hope you’ll take the feedback and choose words wisely.

]]> By: Amy J http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1783 Amy J Mon, 14 Dec 2009 15:13:35 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1783 Summer I'm a new reader and I love your blog. Say whatever you want! Heather, Thank you! Summer I’m a new reader and I love your blog. Say whatever you want!

Heather, Thank you!

]]> By: Summer http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1780 Summer Mon, 14 Dec 2009 06:08:26 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1780 @heather Thank you. @heather

Thank you.

]]> By: heather http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1779 heather Mon, 14 Dec 2009 03:37:25 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1779 Ok, the definition of retard as a noun: a slowing down, diminution, or hindrance There is the slang definition refering to mentally handicapped persons of differing abilities. However, technically, she used the word correctly. If one infers a negative connotation from that, then whose problem is it really when the implication wasn't there? Perhaps it's my Asperger's making me see this from a logical non-emotional way... but she truly was refering to a "retarded" way she had of communicating at that moment. And sincerely, I often have those same moments. Ok, the definition of retard as a noun:

a slowing down, diminution, or hindrance

There is the slang definition refering to mentally handicapped persons of differing abilities.

However, technically, she used the word correctly. If one infers a negative connotation from that, then whose problem is it really when the implication wasn’t there?

Perhaps it’s my Asperger’s making me see this from a logical non-emotional way… but she truly was refering to a “retarded” way she had of communicating at that moment. And sincerely, I often have those same moments.

]]> By: Summer http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1777 Summer Sun, 13 Dec 2009 21:29:14 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1777 I think I am just going to take this experience as a lesson learned. It is, in fact, MY BLOG, so I <em>should</em> be able to say whatever I want. However, it is not my intention to offend anyone by doing so. I do care about my readers opinions and it was never my intention to discriminate against individuals with disabilities. While I will not recant what I said, I will try to be more respectful and politically correct in the future. Thank you. I think I am just going to take this experience as a lesson learned. It is, in fact, MY BLOG, so I should be able to say whatever I want. However, it is not my intention to offend anyone by doing so. I do care about my readers opinions and it was never my intention to discriminate against individuals with disabilities.
While I will not recant what I said, I will try to be more respectful and politically correct in the future.

Thank you.

]]> By: Amy J http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1771 Amy J Sun, 13 Dec 2009 05:31:45 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1771 Kel I'm offended by lots of things, and I'm sure I have unintentionally offended many by things I say. I don't mean to offend but it seems as though people are easily offended and just because you are offended doesn't mean you have to rant about it. Just because someone says something that I find offensive I don't need to fly off the handle and tell someone that they are not being respectful. I don't know Summer but I'm fairly certain she wasn't planning to offend anyone. Just as I don't mean to offend anyone with this comment (even though I'm sure I will) I think blogs should be taken with a grain of salt which is why I rarely write in my own blog about anything because of the comments I get. This is probably a rant of my own, but my "position" if you will is just that if someone says or writes something offensive to YOU. Let it go...it only hurts you. Kel I’m offended by lots of things, and I’m sure I have unintentionally offended many by things I say. I don’t mean to offend but it seems as though people are easily offended and just because you are offended doesn’t mean you have to rant about it.
Just because someone says something that I find offensive I don’t need to fly off the handle and tell someone that they are not being respectful. I don’t know Summer but I’m fairly certain she wasn’t planning to offend anyone. Just as I don’t mean to offend anyone with this comment (even though I’m sure I will) I think blogs should be taken with a grain of salt which is why I rarely write in my own blog about anything because of the comments I get.
This is probably a rant of my own, but my “position” if you will is just that if someone says or writes something offensive to YOU. Let it go…it only hurts you.

]]> By: kel http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1770 kel Sun, 13 Dec 2009 03:51:44 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1770 Okay, so I have something to say. First, Summer is allowed to say whatever the hell she wants. It's her blog. Second, Amy J, as a special education teacher, I am offended by the use of the word "retarded" and it's not because I'm close-minded. Judgemental? Maybe. But the bottom line is, it's the same as using an adjective such as "gay" to describe something with a negative connotation and people need to understand why certain things are just not appropriate to say. I come in peace, friends. Okay, so I have something to say. First, Summer is allowed to say whatever the hell she wants. It’s her blog.

Second, Amy J, as a special education teacher, I am offended by the use of the word “retarded” and it’s not because I’m close-minded. Judgemental? Maybe.

But the bottom line is, it’s the same as using an adjective such as “gay” to describe something with a negative connotation and people need to understand why certain things are just not appropriate to say.

I come in peace, friends.

]]> By: Amy J http://www.blogfullyyours.com/2009/12/10/the-time-i-made-an-ass-out-of-myself-in-front-of-twenty-six/comment-page-1/#comment-1768 Amy J Sun, 13 Dec 2009 01:33:00 +0000 http://www.blogfullyyours.com/?p=626#comment-1768 Blanche I have a very close member of my family who is mentally disabled, and those that are offended by the word "retarded" are usually the people that are closed minded and judgemental not the person describing their own situations. Blanche I have a very close member of my family who is mentally disabled, and those that are offended by the word “retarded” are usually the people that are closed minded and judgemental not the person describing their own situations.

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